While explaining stress management to an audience, the lecturer raised a glass of water and asked 'How heavy is this glass of water?' Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g.
当向听众解释压力管理的时候，讲师拿起一杯水问道：这杯水有多重？听众有说20克的，有说500克的。
The lecturer replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance. In each case, it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."
讲师回答说：“实际有多重并不重要，这要看我拿着它的时间。一分钟，没有问题。如果一个小时呢，我的右臂就会疼痛。再进一步，一天，你应该给我叫救护车了。当然每种情况下杯子的重量是相同的，但是我拿的越久，它就显得越沉。”
He continued, "And that's the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on."
他继续说道：这就像压力管理，如果总是怀揣沉重的负担，我们会觉得压力越来越大，迟早我们会崩溃掉。
"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden."
正如这杯水一样，你需要放下它休息一下，调整自己，继续前行。
"So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don't carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can."
所以，今晚各位在回家之前，放下工作上的负担。不要把它带到家里去，你可以明天继续把它拾起来。无论你背负怎样的负担，如果可能，暂时忘掉它们。
Here are 5 simple ways to increase your peace of mind:
这里有5个简单的方法，能为你带来平静的心情：
1. Do your most daunting task first thing in the morning
1. 将最艰巨的任务放在早晨
It's tempting to start your day with easy tasks. Don't. Pushing a daunting task back is like holding a glass of water in an outstretched arm. At first nothing happens, but if you do it for hours or even days, you will soon feel the stress. Do the most annoying task first thing in the morning, and enjoy increased productivity and peace of mind for the rest of the day.
人们总是倾向于用简单的任务开始一天的工作，别这样做。将艰巨的任务拖到后面就像你伸开手臂举着杯子，开始没什么，但是随着时间的推移，你会很快感觉到压力。将最艰巨的任务放在早晨，这样你不仅能提升效率，而且还能享受一天中剩下时间的平静。
2. Let go of things you don't control
2. 放开你不能控制的事情
You make plans to go outside with friends. But at the last minute, it starts raining. What's your reaction?
你与朋友计划好外出，但是最后关头下雨了，这时你会怎么想？
Some people upset and angry, and find the nearest person and start complaining to them. "It's not FAIR that it's raining. This always happens to me!"
有些人会因此而失望、愤怒，然后跟周围的人抱怨：这不公平，为什么这种事总是让我遇到！
That's not going to accomplish anything - the rain won't stop just because you throw a tantrum. The rain doesn't care. So make the best of the situation. What I do in such situation is go for a quick walk in the park (because rain has its own awesomeness)， or just lie in bed reading a good Terry Pratchett book, listening to the rain beating on my window.
没什么可抱怨的，雨不会因为你抱怨而停止，老天才不在乎。这种情况下我会到公园里散步（因为雨也很有魅力），或者躺在床上一边读特里·普拉切特的书，一边听着雨水打在窗户上的声音。
Make the most of what you do control, and don't worry about what you don't.
将你能掌控的事情做到最好，但也不用太在意你不能左右的事情。
3. Don't worry about what others are thinking
3. 不必担心别人的想法
I used to be very self-conscious about my dancing. I would rarely go out with my friends, and even if I did, I wouldn't dance, instead just standing awkwardly by the side, because I was worried of what others would think.
我曾经对自己的舞技感到非常羞愧，因此很少与朋友外出。即使出去我也不跳舞，仅仅笨笨的站在一边。因为我担心别人嘲笑。
Then, one day in high school, I decided that enough was enough. So the next time I went out with my friends, I just went to the dance floor, and danced like nobody was watching. And the funny thing was - nobody cared. In fact, people only liked me MORE, because I was having fun.
然而有一天我在学校里重重地下了决心，决定要改变这一现状。下一次和朋友们出去的时候，我走进了舞池，旁若无人的跳舞。有意思的是并没有人注意到我。实际上他们更喜欢我了，因为我玩得很开心。
Don't worry about what others are thinking of you - most likely they're too busy wondering what others are thinking of them.
不要担心别人怎么看你，可能他们还在忙着担心别人会怎么看他们呢。
4. List 3 things you love about your situation right now
4. 列出在你的现状中你最喜欢的三点
Just list 3 simple things about any part of your life that you love. Like "3 simple things I love about the room I'm in right now"， or "3 simple things I love about this week", or anything else.
列出生活中你喜爱的3件简单的事情，如：这个屋子我最喜欢的3个地方，或这个星期我最喜欢的3件事，或是其它的什么。
This is a great technique if you're ever bored while stuck in traffic, or waiting in the grocery store checkout lane. You can immediately transform boredom into happiness and peace of mind!
在你堵车或排队而感到无聊的时候这个技巧就会显得尤为有用，你能立即把无聊的感觉一扫而光，取而代之的是幸福和平静。
5. Walk to a window, look outside, and take a single deep breath
5. 走向窗前望向窗外，深呼吸
Just walk to a window, look outside, and then take a single deep breath, focusing only on that breath and nothing else in the whole world. This technique sounds extremely simple, but you won't believe how much it can instantaneously increase your peace of mind.
走向窗前望向窗外，深呼吸。将注意力集中到这次呼吸上并忘掉其它的一切。这听起来极其简单，但是你很难想象这样做能立即给你带来平静的心情。
The older, the wiser. 姜是老的辣。
The morning sun never lasts a day.好景不常；朝阳不能光照全日。
The hardest part is being away from you，the best part will be when we’re together again. Missing you, with all my heart.最难莫过离你而去，最好莫过重新欢聚。全心想你。
The crash of the whole solar and stellar systems could only kill you once.即使整个太阳系和星系崩溃，你也只死一次。
Something attempted, something done. 有所尝试，就等于有所作为。
Reading does good to our mind.读书对心灵有益。
People believe that computer skills will enhance their job opportunities or promotion opportunities. 人们相信拥有计算机技术可以获得更多工作或提升的机会。
Overwork does harm to health.工作过度对健康有害。
If you would have a thing well done,do it yourself.想把事情来做好，就得亲自动手搞。
I’ll never forget the time we share together.我永远也不会忘记我们在一起的日子。
I tell you hopeless grief is passionless. 我告诉你，没有希望的悲伤是没有感情的.。
He who has never hoped can never despair. 从来没有抱什么希望的人也永远不会失望。
He that doth most at once doth least.什么都想一次做完，结果一件也做不完；贪多嚼不烂。
Everything must have a beginning.凡事都有起源。
Everybody’s business is nobody’s business.众人的事就是无人过问的事。
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, loving someone deeply gives you courage.被爱给你力量，爱人给你勇气。
And forever has no end. 永永远远,永无止境。
Although it rains, throw not away your watering pot.纵然天下雨，休把水壶丢。
All truths are not to be told.真理并不都能说得清。
All time is no time when it is past.光阴一去不复返。
1、 I shall die again and again to know that life is inexhaustible. 我将一次又一次的死去，来证明生命是无穷无尽的。 ——泰戈尔 《飞鸟集》
2、 "When one is in love, one always begins by deceiveing one's self, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what would calls a romance. 爱，始于自我欺骗，终于欺骗他人。这就是所谓的浪漫。 ——恋爱总是以自欺开始，以欺人结束。 ——王尔德"
3、 "Goodbye doesn't always mean the end,sometimes it means a new beginning. 分开不代表说再见，或许是更好的去面对将来。 ——王家卫 《蓝莓之夜》"
4、 老照片里甜蜜的微笑 我和你的完美的造化 I think I'ma lucky guy 真好! 我们的故事就像美丽的童话 Oh My God!最好听的Pop-Pop 你的声音融化掉我 Like Ice Cream 就是活像一幅画 ——EXO 《Lucky》
5、 我们何其幸运we're extremely fortunate 我何其幸运，因为我不是气象学家，不用知道云彩如何形成或气流里有什么成分， 但我却可以用我的眼采集天边的流云，放在心里细品那份最抽象的唯美。 我何其幸运，因为我也不是动物学家，我不清楚鸟到底靠什么飞翔， 我只知道阳光下那对神奇的羽翼，常常让我感应到蓝天白云之间有天使飞过的痕迹。 我何其幸运，因为我也不是植物学家，我至今都不太明了光合作用的原理， 只是会近乎固执地钟情于那最简单的绿，坚信再小的林子里也会有可爱的精灵。 ——辛波丝卡
6、 "We all die. The goal isn't to live forever, the goal is to create something that will. 我们终究会死。所以我们的人生目标不该是长命百岁，而应该做点自己想做的。 ——恰克·帕拉纽克"
7、 "“如果说去旅行去冒险是为了遇见不曾见过的美妙景色,经历不曾想过的充实人生,那么与你的相遇相守就是我能想到的最美丽的冒险”。 Thanks for the adventures. 《飞屋环游记》"
8、 "In life, then boring time, also are limited edition. 生命中，再无聊的时光，也都是限量版。"
9、 "If you've been playing poker for half an hour and you still don't know who the patsy is, you're the patsy. 如果你打了半小时牌，仍然不知道谁是菜鸟，那么你就是。 ——巴菲特"
10、 "To the world you maybe one person,but to one person,you maybe the world"
11、 这是一个颠倒混乱的时代，唉，倒霉的我却要负起重整乾坤的责任! ——莎士比亚 《哈姆雷特》
12、 I must say a word about fear. It is life’s only true opponent. Only fear can defeat life. 这里必须说说恐惧，它是生活惟一真正的对手，因为只有恐惧才能打败生活。 ——李安 《少年派的奇幻漂流》
13、 在时间的大钟上，只有两个字「现在」。 ——莎士比亚
14、 You smiled and talked to me of nothing and I felt that for this I had been waiting long. 你微微地笑着，不同我说什么话。而我觉得，为了这个，我已等待得久了。 ——泰戈尔 《飞鸟集》
15、 The only difference between a caprice and a life-long passion is that the caprice lasts a little longer. 逢场作戏和终身不渝之间的区别只在于逢场作戏稍微长一些。 ——王尔德
16、 "Lift up your head princess, if not, the crown falls. 请抬起你的头， 我的公主，不然皇冠会掉下来的 《罗马假日》"
17、 "I want to appear as a good girl in everyday life and a bad girl in my own thoughts.Outwardly I want to appear as a tender and loving lady,and yet being a ble to transform ino any state of mind. 我要做个思想上的女流氓，生活上的好姑娘，外形上的柔情少女，心理上的变形金刚。"
18、 One can always be kind to people one cares nothing about. 一个人总是可以善待他毫不在意的人。 ——王尔德
19、 "城堡里藏着寂寞， 寂寞在唱歌。 旋律很熟悉， 歌词很模糊。 The castle was hidden in the lonely, Lonely in singing. The melody is very familiar, The lyrics are very fuzzy. ——HANS 《阿狸·梦之城堡》"
20、 It always seems impossible until its done. 在事情未成功之前，一切总看似不可能。 ——曼德拉
21、 "我不知将去何方，但我已在路上。 I do not know go where, but I have been on the road. ——宫崎骏"
22、 "I love you not for who you are, but for who I am with you. 我爱你不是因为你是谁，而是我在你面前可以是谁。 《剪刀手爱德华》"
23、 Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude.
24、 喜悦出于巧合，眼泪何必固执。 ——林夕 《夜会》
25、 We read the world wrong and say that it deceives us. 我们把世界看错了，反说它欺骗我们。 ——泰戈尔 《飞鸟集》
26、 The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it... I can resist everything but temptation. 摆脱诱惑的唯一方法是向诱惑屈服。我能抵御一切——除了诱惑。 ——王尔德
27、 "Have taken place, why must be meaningful. 发生了就发生了，为什么一定要有意义。 《少年派的奇幻漂流》"
28、 "You got a dream, you gotta protect it. People can't do something themselves,they wanna tell you you can't do it.If you want something, go get it. 如果你有梦想的话，就要去捍卫它。那些一事无成的人想告诉你你也成不了大器。如果你有理想的话，就要去努力实现。 《当幸福来敲门》"
29、 So next time I will use up don't know how many days of warm hug you 等下次再见 我会用积攒了不知道多少天的温暖拥抱你
30、 “Love is the one thing that transcends time and space. “ - Amelia 爱是唯一可以超越时间与空间的事物。 《星际穿越》
31、 "There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it. 生活中只有两个悲剧：一个是没有得到你想要的，另外一个是得到了你想要的。 ——王尔德"
32、 十年以前。我记得的最浪漫的台词是那句最有名的：you jump，I jump。 十年以后。却是为了那句“Im Dawson， Rose Dawson”哭到决堤。 以你之姓，冠我之名。原是最美丽的情话。 《泰坦尼克号》
33、 You lower the IQ of the whole street. 《神探夏洛克》
34、 爱是恒久忍耐，又有恩慈;爱是不嫉妒，爱是不自夸，不张狂，不作害羞的事，不求自己的益处，不轻易发怒，不计算人的恶，不喜欢不义，只喜欢真理;凡事包容，凡事相信，凡事盼望，凡事忍耐;爱是永不止息。 《圣经》
35、 The only way to find another is to let go and move on. 找到下一个真爱的唯一方法就是放手，然后向前看。 《吸血鬼日记》
36、 "“Murphy's law doesn't mean that something bad will happen. It means that whatever can happen, will happen.” - Cooper 墨菲定律并非指的是那些变坏的事情必会发生…而是指那些能够发生的事情，就会发生。 《星际穿越》"
37、 "Life is too cruel. If we cease to believe in love, why would we want to live? 生活太残酷了,如果我们不相信爱.还能为什么而活呢? 《吸血鬼日记》"
38、 Joy shared with others are more enjoyed. 与人同乐，其乐无穷。
39、 "Active long will be very tired, care about for a long time will crash! 主动久了会很累， 在乎久了会崩溃!"
40、 我在找那个故事里的人，你是不可缺少的部分 ——方文山 《小小》
41、 Come on ready to be in love...a whole life long 《Wall.e》
42、 每一处的海 都是我的海 我坚信它们在某一处 汇入贯通 储存了我的很多情绪和过往 又默不做声 Every single one of them.Is my ocean.I believe that they will all come across each other somewhere.Storing my emotion and past.At the same time silent as ever. ——安东尼 《云治》
43、 "To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream. Not only plan, but also believe. 要成就一番事业，不仅要有行动，还要有梦想;不仅要有计划，还要有信念。"
44、 "I love you, not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you, not only for what you have made of yourself but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out ——长着翅膀的大灰狼 《然后爱情随遇而安》"
