不与自己隔离，让人性的东西和自己在一起。
心灵捕手(Good Will Hunting)
It must be heartbreaking to be able to appreciate true genius and yet fall just short of it yourself. A man can spend his entire life studying to be a mathematician--and yet watch helplessly while a high school dropout, a janitor, scribbles down the answers to questions the professor is baffled by.
It's also heartbreaking when genius won't recognize itself, and that's the most baffling problem of all in ``Good Will Hunting,'' the smart, involving story of a working-class kid from Boston.
The film stars Matt Damon as a janitor at MIT who likes to party and hang around the old neighborhood and whose reading consists of downloading the contents of whole libraries into his photographic memory. Stellan Skarsgard (the husband in ``Breaking the Waves'') plays Lambeau, the professor, who offers a prize to any student who can solve a difficult problem. The next morning, the answer is written on a blackboard standing in the hall.
Who claims credit? None of the students does. A few days later, Lambeau catches Will Hunting (Damon) at the board and realizes he's the author--a natural mathematical genius who can intuitively see through the thorniest problems. Lambeau wants to help Will, to get him into school, maybe, or collaborate with him. But before that can take place, Will and some buddies are cruising the old neighborhood and beat up a guy. Will also hammers on the cops a little and is jailed.
He's a tough nut. He sees nothing wrong with spending his whole life hanging out with his friends, quaffing a few beers, holding down a blue-collar job. He sees romance in being an honest bricklayer, but none in being a professor of mathematics--maybe because bricklaying is work, and, for him, math isn't.
``Good Will Hunting'' is the story of how this kid's life edges toward self-destruction and how four people try to haul him back. One is Lambeau, who gets probation for Will with a promise that he'll find him help and counseling.
One is Sean McGuire (Robin Williams), Lambeau's college roommate, now a community college professor who has messed up his own life, but is a gifted counselor. One is Skylar (Minnie Driver), a British student at Harvard, who falls in love with Will and tries to help him. And one is Chuckie (Ben Affleck), Will's friend since childhood, who tells him: ``You're sitting on a winning lottery ticket. It would be an insult to us if you're still around here in 20 years.'' True, but Will doesn't see it that way. His reluctance to embrace the opportunity at MIT is based partly on class pride (it would be betraying his buddies and the old neighborhood) and partly on old psychic wounds. And it is only through breaking through to those scars and sharing some of his own that McGuire, the counselor, is able to help him. Robin Williams gives one of his best performances as McGuire, especially in a scene where he finally gets the kid to repeat, ``It's not my fault.'' ``Good Will Hunting'' perhaps found some of its inspiration in the lives of its makers. The movie was co-written by Damon and Affleck, who grew up in Boston, who are childhood friends, and who both took youthful natural talents and used them to find success as actors. It's tempting to find parallels between their lives and the characters--and tempting, too, to watch the scenes between Damon and Driver with the knowledge that they fell in love while making the movie.
The Will Hunting character is so much in the foreground that it's easy to miss a parallel relationship: Lambeau and McGuire also are old friends who have fought because of old angers and insecurities. In a sense, by bringing the troubled counselor and the troublesome janitor together, the professor helps to heal both of them.
The film has a good ear for the way these characters might really talk.
It was directed by Gus Van Sant (``Drugstore Cowboy,'' ``To Die For''), who sometimes seems to have perfect pitch when it comes to dialogue; look at the scene where Matt and Skylar break up and say hurtful things, and see how clear he makes it that Matt is pushing her away because he doesn't think he deserves her.
The outcome of the movie is fairly predictable; so is the whole story, really. It's the individual moments, not the payoff, that make it so effective.
``Good Will Hunting'' has been rather inexplicably compared to ``Rainman,'' although ``Rainman'' was about an autistic character who cannot and does not change, and ``Good Will Hunting'' is about a genius who can change, and grow, if he chooses to.
True, they can both do quick math in their heads. But Will Hunting is not an idiot savant or some kind of lovable curiosity; he's a smart man who knows he's smart but pulls back from challenges because he was beaten down once too often as a child.
Here is a character who has four friends who love and want to help him, and he's threatened by their help because it means abandoning all of his old, sick, dysfunctional defense mechanisms.
As Louis Armstrong once said, ``There's some folks, that, if they don't know, you can't tell 'em.'' This movie is about whether Will is one of those folks.
心灵捕手(Good Will Hunting)
The name of the movie is Good Will Hunting, it tells a story of a lonely intelligent young man releasing his encounters in the past; learning to be loved and love others; “hunting” for the correct direction of his life through the things he experienced and the people around him.
The movie started by the scene of numerous Mathematical books, it shows his first character, he loves reading and has an extensive knowledge in math. The next lens is his friends came to pick up him, the process is muted and both of them said no word, which indicates his silent and introverted personality. Then the following plots present the figures of a group of furious and offensive young men who always attend to fight. Above made a show of personalities and lay the background of the story.
There are four relationships in the movie: Will and his friends, Will and Skylar, Will and Sean, Lambeau and Sean.
Will and his friends
The first are his three friends, they talk to each other with dirty words; don?t have any ambition and work as labors or do some sanitary works because they were not well educated and civilized; hanging out together is the only fun. On the other hand, they got the closest and intimate relationship; they never allow others to insult any one in them. They are
the same kind of people perhaps because they all have unbeknown misfortunes in the past, they all passive, lonely, and afraid of hurt; they are so afraid of lonely so they like being together and passing in and out the chaos bar; they are so afraid to express themselves so they talk rudely; they are so afraid of hurts from others so they hurt others initiatively. There is a fragment which adequately shows their aloneness that one of them wants to drive farther road for lunch, but another young man said: “because you like the take-out girl in the canteen”. That means they have affections but they don?t express them directly like ordinary people. Will is same with them and also he is different from them. He talks few and sometimes he like taking the bus alone to avoid the noise of people and licking the pain himself, because the noise can only bring him away from the scar in his heart for a little while, being alone can make him feel safe and no one will see him through. And he also has his amazing intelligence on math unknown by others. The three guys are the whole relationship between him and the outside word before he met the people who would change his life. They are not good at expressing their feelings in words, they are rude and poor, but they will bring Will a car for his birthday present. This taught Will that there is a kind of wordless love called friendship.
Will and Skylar
Will meet Skylar in the university bar when he defended a young man
who was embarrassing his friend, as Will never talks to others initiatively, Skylar showed her interest to Will and stroke up a conversation with him. In the contact with Skylar, he found that Skylar was a beautiful, easygoing, humorous and passionate lovely girl and he fell in love with her quickly. Skylar noticed that Will is very special, she loves him and she tried to understand him better and wanted to help him. But love makes Will feel self- abased because he thought he was different from other normal people, and he doesn?t deserve the wonderful girl. He lied to Skylar that he has many brothers to disguise his loneliness because he was afraid she will dislike him if he has no sense of what is normal family love like other ordinary people. He don?t want to tell Skylar why he can?t go with her, because he thinks she will leave him if she know his past. So he drive Skylar away from him because he don?t want to see Skylar leave him, he think that may be less hurt for him; actually he had already hurt both himself and his love. When they talked on the phone, Skylar told him she loves him, he was grieved after they broke up and can?t find a way out. So he turns to his ?hunter? Sean.
Will and Sean
Sean is the key of ?hunting good Will?. Will was sent to Sean after several psychologists beaten back, Sean uses his own way to motivate Will to speak out, exposed the pain in his heart toward Will and shared his hurt with him, he told Will about his wife and their love story. He teaches Will
that if you love somebody, you love his shortcomings and defects, and accept his past, and he will never leave you no matter what you like. He led Will to dissolve the painful memory of the past and inspired Will that people should live without regret and encouraged Will to pursue Skylar back; they share their pain with each other and comfort each other, healed each other and become soul partner of each other, both of Sean and Will saved each other from the pain of the past and open their heart to embrace life in future.
Sean and Lambeau
They used to be old friend, but their relationship is not very good because they have the different outlook and pursuits. Sean likes living light-heartedly, he does just what he wants to do and he doesn?t care of fame or money. Lambeau attend to pursue fame and prestige, like to govern others and judge others at his own point. He doesn?t understand Sean, he thought just what he is doing can be called successful and Sean is doing something meaningless and unsuccessful. Will?s occurrence and refusal remind him that people who successful is just do what they what to do. Sean quarrel with him taught him that he is too ego and arrogant; Lambeau finally recognized his deficient and he made the gap up between he and Sean.
Some inspirations
There are too many lonely people in the world. All of them experienced some unpleasing encounters and can?t let them go. Everyone has his unchangeable past and sometimes there will be some unforgettable painful memory, people often tortured by the distressed things that had happened and constrained by the pain in subsequent life, if we want to live better life, we?d better let them go, because the world will never abandon you unless you are going to abandon yourself. Learn to enjoy loneliness when we live alone; try to heal the pain in your heart by yourself, because if there is no one can save you, you have to be able to save yourself; open your heart to the world all the time because what doesn?t kill you makes you stronger. The movie makes me think about love, it teaches me that the one really love you will love you no matter what you like ; it remind me that true friend is the most valuable wealth I have even if I have nothing; it makes me think about myself; who am I? What do I want to do? Who is my soul partner? I think am just a tiny dust of the immense universe; I want to realize my value to the people around me and find my soul partner; I will be my soul partner before I find another one.
尊重，是最好的行善
曾经有一位大善人，几乎每个月都会开设粥棚，布施乡里，并且经常出钱为当地百姓修建公共设施。但是乡民们对他的善举并不心存感激，当他亲自将过冬的衣服发给那些无家可归者时，发现竟然没有一个人对他说“谢谢”，却对施舍衣服的管家礼遇有加。他回家后质问管家为何会如此，管家直率地说，那是因为我把他们当做跟我一样的人，互相热情问候，彼此关怀；您却高高在上，令他们觉得自己一文不值。如果您想让他们真心道谢，那么就请您先对他们微笑吧。
听了管家的话，善人决定试试，他开始在上街时跟迎面而来的乡民打招呼并微笑，几个月后，乡民们对他的态度有了很大的转变，像见到亲人一样对他。在过节的时候，乡民甚至竭尽所能地将家里最好的东西送给他，善人的美名开始被大家接受和传播。
正像物理学上牛顿提出的反作用力定律一样，人格上也存在一种平等互动的反作用律，你给别人什么你就会得到什么。若是施舍金钱财物而缺乏尊重，将来虽然能收获同等的财物和金钱，却得不到真正的尊重。唯有以真诚、平等、谦恭、尊重、仁爱的心去热情关怀和帮助他人，才能得到他人发自内心的佩服和敬爱
18年前的“萌”侠马云
刚从阿里巴巴集团CEO职位卸任的马云，在1995年刚刚开始创业时，一天晚上8点多，他在路上看到前面有五六个大汉在撬井盖，马云判断他们是要偷井盖去卖。他心想，前几天报纸上登过有个小孩掉到没盖子的窨井里面淹死了，但如果去阻止，这五六个大汉我又怎么打得过？马云就骑自行车跑到前面去找人，绕了两圈没看到警察。他实在忍不住，就骑过去指着偷井盖的几个人大喊：“你给我抬回去！”这时突然有几个人冲过来，还有摄影机对着他……原来这是杭州一家电视台在做节目，测试路过市民对偷井盖行为的'反应，马云因此第一次上了电视。这段视频最近被上传到了网上，立即成为关注的热点，视频里的马云三十出头，一身侠气……不少网友纷纷赞其身上的正能量：有的说他“蠢萌”可爱；有的说他很有社会责任感，有勇有谋；还有的表示终于知道马云为什么能够成为顶级企业家了。
古人云，物类之起，必有所始；荣辱之来，必像其德。阿里巴巴能够在业界大获成功，自然蕴含着能够为社会大众所接受和认同的伦理因子，其中一个重要因子就是社会责任感，马云18年前的侠义之举表明了这一点。
手机之父的动力
马丁·库帕大学毕业后一直找不到工作，于是决定去从小崇拜的无线电专家乔治的公司试试。当库帕敲开房门时，乔治正在专心研究无线电话。库帕恭敬地说：“尊敬的乔治先生，我很想成为您公司的一员，如果能够当您的助手那就更好了……”没等库帕说完，乔治便粗暴地打断他的话，问道：“你干无线电多长时间了？”“我今年刚毕业，还从没干过无线电工作。”“年轻人，我看还是请你出去吧……”乔治还是觉得他太年轻，不足以为己所用，于是下了逐客令。库帕临走时说：“终有一天，您会正眼看我的。”
1973年的一天，一名男子站在纽约街头，掏出一个约有两块砖头大的无线电话，引得路人纷纷驻足观望，此人正是库帕。乔治怎么也想不到，当年被自己拒之门外的年轻人，竟然比自己先一步研制出了无线移动电话——手机。手机的问世，让马丁·库帕闻名世界。记者采访库帕时问道：“如果当时您留在乔治的公司，您肯定会协助乔治完成手机的研制。”库帕回答：“不，如果当时乔治留下了我，我也许永远也研制不出现在的手机来。正因为他拒绝了我，掐断了我想向他学习的念头，所以我才重新开辟出了一条研制手机的道路。”
遭受不信任、嘲笑、歧视，这是古今中外的英才俊杰都难免遇到的。但能将难忍的屈辱化为刻骨铭心的动力，最终使其变成通向成功和光荣的阶石，则是历史上成功人士的共同特征。忍受不了屈辱，并因此而灰心、颓废，最终只能走向失败和碌碌无为。
德鲁克的“反省课”
1927年，18岁的彼得·德鲁克离开家乡奥地利来到德国的汉堡当学徒。20岁时，他被汉堡最大的一家报社录用，成为财经和外事报道的记者。22岁时被提拔为总编助理。当时的总编在每年伊始和当年过半的两个时间段里，都会让报社员工花费一天半时间对过去的工作进行反省——总结成绩、找到不足，并构思出下半年的
有人认为世间优秀者只是犯错较少、成功较多而已，其实不然，他们的成功经验都有一个重要环节——善于反省。对于职场人来说，反省像每天吃饭那样必不可少，不容轻视。反省做得好，就会不断地修正错误、完善自我、发现隐患、防范未然，进而奔向成功的目标。
大师的为人之道
一位表演大师准备上场，他的弟子告诉他鞋带松了，大师点头致谢，蹲下来仔细系好；但等到弟子转身走开后，大师又蹲下来将鞋带解松。旁边有个人看到了这一切，不解地问：“先生，您为什么又要将鞋带解松呢？”大师回答道：“因为我饰演的是一位劳累的旅者，长途跋涉让他的鞋带松开了，可以通过这个细节表现他的劳累和憔悴。”“那你为什么不直接告诉你的弟子呢？”“他能细心地发现我的鞋带松了，并且热心地告诉我，我一定要保护他这种热情的积极性，及时地给他鼓励。至于表演时为什么要将鞋带解开，我将来会慢慢教给他。”
对他人的热情和善意保持尊重、爱护的态度，即便他的建议自己不认同也要如此，这是真正文明礼貌的表现，不仅反映着道德文明，而且体现着一种深入细节的仁爱艺术。正如台湾作家刘墉所说：“施于人，但不要使对方有受施的感觉。帮助人，但给予对方最高的尊重。这是助人的艺术，也是仁爱的情操。”
为乞丐举行的隆重葬礼
2009年11月的一个周末，美国宾夕法尼亚州的莫克小镇举行了一场隆重的葬礼，自发而来的人们排成了一个长长的送葬队伍。送葬的对象是一个因心肌梗死而亡的残疾乞丐——杰弗森，他平生并没有任何英雄壮举，但许多人都异口同声地说他是一个好人。
他曾向消防部门报告了三处火险隐患；他曾为一位截肢青年无偿献血500CC；他曾向遭受飓风的佛罗里达州灾民捐献了2000美元——他全部积蓄的三分之二；他曾花费一年多时间四处奔走，帮助两个走失儿童找到了亲人；他从不乱扔垃圾，他会背着废品走上5里多的山路，送到镇上的垃圾回收站；不管收获多少，他总是微笑，从未听他叹息过、抱怨过什么……葬礼上，牧师阅读了杰弗森放在衣兜里的遗言：“我很感激自己能够生活在这样美好的世界里，我一生都在接受人们善意的关注和帮助，都在感受着爱的温暖，我也十分愿意为这个世界留下一些关切和温暖，只是我做得太少了，少得可能连上帝都看不到，但我还是衷心祝愿这个世界越来越美好……”
古人云，人生一世，草木一秋。人寿不定，或长或短，长亦不过百年。在这短暂如一秋的人生中，有多少人能做到在死后为世人所敬重和悼念呢？一个流浪、残疾的乞丐，却以自己善良慈爱的心和持续的善举做到了这一点，这足以令我等四肢健全、衣食无缺的健康人汗颜。很多人对此，并非做不到，而是不想做。
They used to be old friend, but their relationship is not very good because they have the different outlook and pursuits. Sean likes living light-heartedly, he does just what he wants to do and he doesn?t care of fame or money. Lambeau attend to pursue fame and prestige, like to govern others and judge others at his own point. He doesn?t understand Sean, he thought just what he is doing can be called successful and Sean is doing something meaningless and unsuccessful. Will?s occurrence and refusal remind him that people who successful is just do what they what to do. Sean quarrel with him taught him that he is too ego and arrogant; Lambeau finally recognized his deficient and he made the gap up between he and Sean.
Some inspirations
There are too many lonely people in the world. All of them experienced some unpleasing encounters and can?t let them go. Everyone has his unchangeable past and sometimes there will be some unforgettable painful memory, people often tortured by the distressed things that had happened and constrained by the pain in subsequent life, if we want to live better life, we?d better let them go, because the world will never abandon you unless you are going to abandon yourself. Learn to enjoy loneliness when we live alone; try to heal the pain in your heart by yourself, because if there is no one can save you, you have to be able to save yourself; open your heart to the world all the time because what doesn?t kill you makes you stronger. The movie makes me think about love, it teaches me that the one really love you will love you no matter what you like ; it remind me that true friend is the most valuable wealth I have even if I have nothing; it makes me think about myself; who am I? What do I want to do? Who is my soul partner? I think am just a tiny dust of the immense universe; I want to realize my value to the people around me and find my soul partner; I will be my soul partner before I find another one.
