虎妈战歌读后感1
读完这本《虎妈战歌》，没想到这样一本书其实就是一本育儿日记，把自己的育儿中心思想以及生活中的典型事件记录下来，连自己的妹妹患病以及家中养狗的心路历程都记录了下来。
我想这本书这么畅销是因为它引起了文化的碰撞，这位妈妈虽然是生在美国的华裔，但是她受到的教养方式是纯中国式的，而且她小时候也是一个逆来顺受的典型华人孩子，加之她是家中长姐，必然成长为一个强势，目的性责任性都很强的人。书中她对老公说你为家中狗-可可的未来考虑过吗？哈哈哈，因为太过于可笑，反而显得可爱，这个老公笑场了，争论停止了。
我很理解这位强势的妈妈的挣扎以及钦佩她的执行能力以及意志之坚强。其实，我想她没有嫁给华人，内心是有点觉得愧对父母的，因为那是父母对她未来的预设。作为一个孝顺孩子，她也像很多华人子女一样，希望在另外一个层面来补偿。虽然两个孩子是混血儿，她也让孩子们说普通话，就好像父母小时候要求她的一样。在美国这样一个主流社会价值观与华人价值观格格不入的地方，坚守自己的育儿理念需要非常大的勇气。虽然对未来不确定，她也产生过这样值不值得的想法（孩子可能并不会感激自己，以后也没有一个现实的回报），但最终这位母亲还是按照着非常传统的中国虎妈的教育方式来教养自己的孩子们。
中国的孩子们也在变，不同阶层的孩子教养的方式也有不同。中国的孩子再也不怕公开的忤逆家长，因为受到的公开处刑不像以前那样的严厉了。见了不同的价值观和行为方式，中国人也开始反思自己的文化了。
我没有一个具体的坚定的价值观，随时根据情况调整吧，希望能够中庸之道，人只有这一生，也就这一次当母亲的机会，而成效要在几十年后才显现，每一步都如履薄冰。
有一点是肯定的，我欣赏这位虎妈的坦诚以及坚强的意志力，只有参与了鸡娃的人，才能够理解彼此。那些放手的人，避免与孩子产生正面对抗的父母，那些美其名曰让孩子在历练中成长，在经历中找到自我的人，都应该明白，自己如果没有参与陪伴孩子的每一次学习辅导，就没有资格指责别人的付出。旁观者永远显得更聪明更有预见性，而身处其中的鸡娃老母亲们需要大家的爱与理解。
虎妈战歌读后感2
今年年初，一本关于育儿的自传《虎妈战歌》轰动美国，引发一场关于教育思想理念的热议。也引起中国民众的广泛关注。
本书作者蔡美尔，美籍华人，美国哈弗大学文学学士，法学博士，现任美国耶鲁大学终身教授。在欧美近似放羊的松弛教育态势之下，蔡美尔用华人家长的高度期待和严格教养方式培育两个孩子。最终两个孩子均出类拔萃，学习和音乐都非常优秀，取得引人羡慕的成绩。在当地被誉为音乐神童。《虎妈的战歌》坦露了作者抚养两个孩子的心路历程和育儿的体验。
读这本书，一页页感受蔡美儿教育孩子的真实和真情，惊叹蔡美尔的投入和执着，体验蔡美尔的超凡和绝然，一步步走进作者的喜怒哀乐，蔡美尔和她两个孩子的形象栩栩如生展现在眼前。
我从中更关注的是关于培育孩子的理念。我家的外孙子也在美国接受教育。我对美式教育也有些疑惑。
蔡美尔在书中写道：
“成为行家里手的过程，其实毫无乐趣可言。要掌握任何高超的技艺，必须付出艰苦的努力。而从孩子们的本性来讲，绝不会爱好努力。因此，一开始就不给他们选择不努力的机会，便显得至关重要。”
“不给孩子选择不努力的机会”，这成为蔡美尔育儿的基本思想和出发点。没有什么人天生就喜欢努力。孩子们更是喜欢张开双臂去拥抱轻松。美式教育特别强调对孩子的尊重，常常把选择的权利交给孩子。结果许多孩子会很轻易选择放弃。而作为父母，最不利于保护孩子自尊的行为，就是眼看着自己的孩子在困难面前放弃努力，而自己无所作为。
不给孩子选择不努力的机会，就是要帮助孩子选择努力的机会。让孩子选择一项有意义的事情，然后专心致志，全力以扑，坚持不懈。其实这个过程本身，就能让孩子受益终身。培养孩子对待事业“专心致志，全力以扑，坚持不懈“的态度和意志品质，这正是蔡美尔育儿的大方向。不给孩子选择不努力的态度，这其实就是育儿最好的选择。严格管理和悉心督导，就是蔡美尔的育儿模式，也是蔡美尔说的中国式传统教育模式。
蔡美尔能做出这样的选择，是因为自己曾经受益于严格的中国式教育传统。蔡美尔是在经历了中西方激烈文化冲突和认真比照之后，清醒的坚定的选择了中国式的育儿方式。蔡美尔的教育获得了成功。
”虎妈”的教育方法在美引起轰动，并引发美国关于中美教育方法的大讨论并不奇怪，是美国放羊式教育放松到极致后的反弹。
今天，“中国方式”不再是一个仅仅与保守落后同类的贬义词。尤其是20xx年12月由世界经合组织公布的有34个国家参加的国际学生评估测试中，上海学生一举夺得阅读，数学，科学的冠军，中国的教育进一步吸引了世界人民的眼球，而中国家庭育儿模式，是否也将受到更多关注？
我在2xx年去美探亲期间，在俄勒岗州科瓦洛斯市认识一位姓唐的华人妈妈。这位女士也是一位高学历的知识女性。丈夫大学教授。现在有四个儿子。大儿子十六岁考取斯坦福（美国排名前三的名校），获全额奖学金，在当地传为美谈。其他的孩子也个个优秀。这个家庭孩子的管理和督导，也主要靠这位妈妈。早在xx年（《虎妈战歌》还没有问世之前），这位妈妈对美式教育就颇多批评。也是一位主张严格要求严格督导的妈妈。她主张，家长要一个红脸，一个黑脸。她的名言：“给孩子一个光明的未来，才是对孩子最大的爱。”“孩子成长的时间输不起。”“要我说你好，除非你真的好。”“管得住，有威信，是实施教育的'前提”“教育要讲求效率”。她有两个孩子和我家孙子一起上小学，下午放学的时候，我们去学校接孙子。孩子调皮，总是要赖在学校玩一阵才肯走。而唐女士的车一到，她的孩子会立即上车回家。她的孩子参加州的乒乓球比赛，赛场上生龙活虎大喊大叫，老是拿同龄组的冠军。
虎妈战歌读后感3
前几天从朋友家借到一本《我在美国做妈妈》，看了书的英语名字，才知道它就是大名鼎鼎地《虎妈战歌》，很早前就看到关于虎妈的介绍，以及虎妈教育方式引起的争议，当时我觉得，能把中国的教育方式带到美国并获得成功，虎妈真的很了不起。但看了书以后却觉得，这种教育方式，别说是美国人，就是作为纯粹中国人的我，都无法接受。
虎妈有两个女儿，索非亚和露易沙，都从三岁左右开始，姐姐学钢琴，妹妹学小提琴，十四岁的姐姐获得在卡内基音乐厅演奏的机会，十三岁的妹妹也获得世界名师的指导。可以说姐妹两人的琴艺都达到了世界领先的水平，从这点来说，虎妈无疑是成功的。
然而，成功总是需要付出代价的。也是从三岁开始，姐妹两人每天练琴至少五六个小时，出去旅游也要练琴，孩子上学都是跑步回家，只为了多省出一些时间练琴，姐妹俩除了上学，基本没什么社交，因为妈妈不允许他们参加任何社团活动，不允许他们和玩伴随一起玩，可以说，除了上学，姐妹俩的生活在妈妈严格的控制之下，甚至妈妈还时常以各种名义替姐妹俩向学校请假，逃避一些妈妈认为不重要的项目（如体育或一些社团活动），只为了节约时间练琴。
中国人自古信奉梅花香自苦寒来，或许，虎妈的良苦用心谁都能理解，如果把塑造音乐神童当成孩子终生的目标，她的方式方法无疑也是正确的，可当我读到她对孩子进行的各种严酷的训练时，我总在想：还处于童年的小姐妹，会怎么想？她们有快乐的时候吗？她们伤心难过时有人倾听她们的心声吗？书中只讲了妈妈如何训练，并没有写孩子是怎么想的。姐姐索非亚习惯逆来顺受，伤心难过时很少表露现来，是让妈妈骄傲无比的乖女儿，可有一次，在妈妈为小事批评她以后也禁不住流下眼泪，妹妹露易莎对妈妈强烈反抗，十几年来母女关系一直处于十分恶劣的状态，直至最后露露公开反抗，迫使妈妈同意她放弃练了十几年的小提琴。
虎妈战歌读后感4
《虎妈战歌》也是我见到过的最为真实的一本书。之前读过的妈妈经千篇一律都是妈妈怎么教育宝宝，采取了什么方式，怎么一步步成功的，到我自己真正有了孩子之后才发现，那些书有多么的扯淡！教育孩子需要互动，怎么教并不重要，重要的是孩子的反应，孩子是活的，不是没有反应的，老祖宗一直说得因材施教，被那些人都扔到了山沟里了。
蔡美儿非常聪明，她根据每个孩子不同的特点进行督促，大女儿温顺，战斗就容易一些，小女儿执拗，战斗就艰难一些，书里的描写绘声绘色，母女之间的战争你来我往，写的是那么的动人，也是那么动情，那些战争背后的深情让人感慨万千。这得需要多么深的爱，才能让一个女人在每天辛苦工作之后，对孩子下这么大的工夫呢？
昨天看洪晃评论虎妈为地狱老母，我看了以后特别的生气，即使不喜欢，洪晃也不能这么恶毒的评论吧？！如果洪晃的妈妈当初能像虎妈一样，站在孩子的未来为孩子考虑，洪晃也不至于成为今天这样。还有华尔街日报那些中外媒体对虎妈的攻击，他们只看到了虎妈对孩子的严，却看不到那深沉博大的爱。
在读这本书的过程中，我总会想起我的妈妈，从我上学开始，妈妈每天都会辅导我功课，我才会考上大学，如果没有妈妈，我真的不知道今天自己会成为什么什么样的人。一直到今天，我都特别感谢我妈妈对我的严，我对妈妈也是深深的爱。
我也特别不理解，现在的教育为何一再强调给孩子自尊，要尊重孩子，怎么样叫做不尊重孩子呢？难道我们今天在社会上苦钱，谁给过我们尊重吗？尊重不是无缘无故给的，如果尊重得来的那么容易，就没有人会珍惜了，孩子也是一样。
虎妈，我喜欢你的战歌，加油！
I ha一ve recently read Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother published by The Penguin Press in 2011. This autobiography was written by the Chinese American woman Amy Chua, a tenured professor in Yale Law School. She causes a sensation because her strict but unique parenting which brings excellent performance of her two daughters.
This autobiography tells the course of Amy Chua how she raised the two daughters in Chinese parenting way. It is divided into three parts. At the first part, it gives some introductions of the two daughters, the family. And in the second and third parts, the writer tells more details in the process of raising her two different daughters and the difficulties she was confronted in the process, and most importantly the success the daughters achieved in music which brought Amy Chua pride as well as the whole family.
To some extent, I don’t like Amy’s parenting in some aspects. In my opinion, she deprived the nature of children and pushed too much pressure on their children, especially on Lulu who was under the shadow of her excellent elder daughter—Sophia. While I was reading the third part in the rebellion part, I couldn’t control my own emotion, I felt what Lulu felt and even hated against her selfish and autocratic mother. I couldn’t understand why Amy didn’t let Lulu get up from sit, for water, not even to go to the bathroom when Lulu just wanted a rest during the long hours’ practice of violin. She made Lulu practice violin all day during the family’s vacation abroad. She spoiled the vacation by letting the other family members waiting the practice. She was unreasonable.
But next what I do is to admire her.
There is an old Chinese saying “property can never last for three generations”。 But Amy Chua did change it! Her parents came to U.S and suffered a tough life at the very beginning. They taught Amy math and piano in an extreme strict way when she was a kid. Under the influence of her parents, now Amy is frugal and pretty strict with her daughters and herself. They are the valuable points of her. Although she is so extreme on her parenting, she has the advisable ideas that the parents and the parents to be to learn.
Firstly, as parents, they couldn’t ignore their children and put all focus on their job. There is no excuse for not concerning their children. Except supervising her daughters, Amy Chua has to give lessons in university, write books and handle the family chores. She is so busy, but she doesn’t ignore the daughters.
Secondly, parents should be strict with their children especially when they are kids because kids lack of self-control. They should not indulge their children in internet or sleepovers.
Thirdly, parents should master some skills in parenting. As a matter of fact, there are so many Chinese parents who are strict with their children with no a一vail of success. Success can’t be totally copied, because some parents ignore the skills in parenting. When their children don’t follow their will or perform well enough to satisfy them, they will lose their temper and even beat their children, yes, of course, Amy Chua will be mad but she won’t beat her daughters, in this condition, she will be sober and wait until her daughters perform well enough. She learnt some music knowledge in her children’s class and supervised them patiently. She knew where to correct the mistakes and ga一ve the children extraordinary success.
Tiger mother aroused a big heat in parenting and threw such an important issue for us to think about. Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother gives us really some enlightenment. Anyway, that’s a really unique experience in reading this book.
This autobiography tells the course of Amy Chua how she raised the two daughters in Chinese parenting way. It is divided into three parts. At the first part, it gives some introductions of the two daughters, the family. And in the second and third parts, the writer tells more details in the process of raising her two different daughters and the difficulties she was confronted in the process, and most importantly the success the daughters achieved in music which brought Amy Chua pride as well as the whole family.
To some extent, I don’t like Amy’s parenting in some aspects. In my opinion, she deprived the nature of children and pushed too much pressure on their children, especially on Lulu who was under the shadow of her excellent elder daughter—Sophia. While I was reading the third part in the rebellion part, I couldn’t control my own emotion, I felt what Lulu felt and even hated against her selfish and autocratic mother. I couldn’t understand why Amy didn’t let Lulu get up from sit, for water, not even to go to the bathroom when Lulu just wanted a rest during the long hours’ practice of violin. She made Lulu practice violin all day during the family’s vacation abroad. She spoiled the vacation by letting the other family members waiting the practice. She was unreasonable.
But next what I do is to admire her.
There is an old Chinese saying “property can never last for three generations”。 But Amy Chua did change it! Her parents came to U.S and suffered a tough life at the very beginning. They taught Amy math and piano in an extreme strict way when she was a kid. Under the influence of her parents, now Amy is frugal and pretty strict with her daughters and herself. They are the valuable points of her. Although she is so extreme on her parenting, she has the advisable ideas that the parents and the parents to be to learn.
Firstly, as parents, they couldn’t ignore their children and put all focus on their job. There is no excuse for not concerning their children. Except supervising her daughters, Amy Chua has to give lessons in university, write books and handle the family chores. She is so busy, but she doesn’t ignore the daughters.
Secondly, parents should be strict with their children especially when they are kids because kids lack of self-control. They should not indulge their children in internet or sleepovers.
Thirdly, parents should master some skills in parenting. As a matter of fact, there are so many Chinese parents who are strict with their children with no avail of success. Success can’t be totally copied, because some parents ignore the skills in parenting. When their children don’t follow their will or perform well enough to satisfy them, they will lose their temper and even beat their children, yes, of course, Amy Chua will be mad but she won’t beat her daughters, in this condition, she will be sober and wait until her daughters perform well enough. She learnt some music knowledge in her children’s class and supervised them patiently. She knew where to correct the mistakes and gave the children extraordinary success.
Tiger mother aroused a big heat in parenting and threw such an important issue for us to think about. Battle Hymn of Tiger Mother gives us really some enlightenment. Anyway, that’s a really unique experience in reading this book.
